Awkward Silence

You know those moments where it seems like someone should say something, but nobody does, creating an energy of anxious anticipation.  I find those moments humorous because I enjoy the peace when it comes to social silence.

Conversations are an interesting thing.  One of my biggest irritations is being stuck in a conversation I have absolutely zero interest in.  These are usually conversations that carry zero value, other than simply to practice moving ones mouth.  lol.  This is going to need to be expanded…

The above makes me laugh because I can feel the energy of others when they are confused by my silence.  Personally, it doesn’t bother me if I’m in a room with someone and nothing is said.  Other than an acknowledgement of their presence, if I don’t have anything constructive to talk about, I ahhhh don’t want to talk.

I think we might be better served as a society if we cut down on our collective chatter by about 80%.  If you were to expand your frame of reference and see all the words being spoken at this moment, include the noise in the air ways, do you honestly think the majority of conversation is constructive; or would it consist of fear, blame, guilt, gossip, and complaining.

I laugh at myself when I reflect on times where I forced myself to conversate, where I try and have a conversation just to appease the social status quo.  It usually ends horribly.

I’m not saying I don’t ever talk about negative stuff or complain myself, you see, this is why it irritates me so much, because it’s something I desire to grow away from.  So if this sort of conversation interest someone else, cool beans dude, it’s just not for me.

I guess the point of all this, is to maybe take a second look at the conversations we do have, and see if they have the type of value we desire for our lives.  I could be totally wrong about this but it would appear that much of what we speak about is negatively pointless.  I understand that people want to connect with others, and that’s great, but I don’t know why it must be done with fear based conversation.

I enjoy connecting with people in silence as well as in conversation.  If I’m in a room with someone, I feel I can connect with them silently, sometimes even better than if we were conversing with words.

In Conclusion

Meaningful Conversation is something to be desired; and it can play a fantastic role in your growth.  Ask yourself real quick, when was the last time I had a conversation with someone that when it ended I felt totally uplifted, renewed, and excited about now?  The next question would be, how often do I have these types of conversations?

For myself, these types of conversations are almost daily and definitely weekly.  This is partly because of my amazing wife, who shares my desire for constructive conversation.  Also, because I spend much of my time thinking about progress for self and consciousness.

Did you find genuine value within this post? If you did, then most likely you know someone else who will as well. I invite you to share the goodness!
Namaste -Tigmonk