Other peoples place in time, their personal circumstance in now, is exactly where they need to be. It may be a minor taboo to see it this way, but in reality, in truth, it is the only way it can be. To say someone should or should not be where they are, is a complete contradiction to truth. To say someone should be smarter, should be prettier, or shouldn’t be so naïve, is to completely remove yourself from now, living in opposition to the moment.
Does what I wrote make sense, can you understand what I’m saying, without adding too many assumption? There is a beautiful simplicity in detaching our identity from the shoulds and should nots of our world; always searching to change something, believing how it is now is not how it’s suppose to be. Of course to the committed egoic mind, the one who see’s himself as separate from what is, there is no logic in my words… and if this is you, then you are exactly where you need to be, where you are now.
Did you find genuine value within this post? If you did, then most likely you know someone else who will as well. I invite you to share the goodness!
Namaste -Tigmonk
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Thank you Tiger for your involvement in creating a site I can go to from time to time and get some great ideas, thoughts, perspectives, etc. I have been on and off your site for a year or so now and it, and you,are appreciated.
This is a difficult one to fully understand and I have battled with situations like this before. One one hand watching a person who is suffering in the “now” is not always easy when it is someone whom you care about. I understand that the person is suffering because of their own doing, and that they need to suffer long enough to get to the point that they will decide on their own to do what is necesssary to evovle and move forward. Had my suffering been interrupted I might be where I am today. So, what I do is just focus on setting the best examples I can. This lifestyle attracts others to come to me when they are suffering and allows me to give advice or listen to their self discussion without intruding on their suffering.
Totally know what you’re talking about. It can be difficult. It is so much easier to judge and condemn and expect others to be where they are not. I’ve come to the same conclusion you have with dealing with such situations; being available with an example. I heard once, don’t remember who said it, but something to the effect, “be cautious of helping people rid themselves of their suffering,” of course meaning it all has a purpose. It’s very common place in the personal development and spiritual market place to count suffering as just another thing we “should” overcome, and “should” be without.
Almost never do I understand the lesson while I’m suffering, I only understand when I transcend the suffering; move through it, rather than around, over, or under it. It serves a great purpose.
Thanks so much for your insight.