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By Tigmonk, on August 17th, 2010
 Greetings PawUpClose.net Subscribers. Yes, I’ve been in hiding for quite some time  My time has been spent in exploring new directions and adventures. My attention may have shifted away from this site temporarily, but my focus towards sharing love has grown.
I’m in the process of developing my first book project, which will be coming out soon (”soon,” is relative).
For updates, you can visit the site I created for it and also find some additional content.
I figure the best way to stay up to date, is to find me on Facebook, as I am most active there.
Announcement for Local subscribers.
Every Wednesday at 7pm, I will be holding a Self Inquiry event at the Medford Oregon Library (starting tomorrow). It’s free, and if you’re interested, click abon the link to learn more.
By Tigmonk, on July 1st, 2010
 The more you resist what is, the more suffering you will experience. The more you resist what is, the more focused you are on the “me.” The more focused on the “me” you are, the greater the separation between you and life (peace). The “me,” is nothing more than a conditioned thought pattern, full of conditioned likes and dislikes, conditioned morality, and conditioned expectations. Having nothing to do with what’s real.
lol. How’s it feel to be an animal who responds only through conditioning? Where none or your reaction is actually yours (the greater “I Am”), but ingrained through social and environmental influence. So what is this response I’m talking about? It’s your knee jerk reaction when things don’t go your way; and by “your way,” I’m referring to your “me,” who it is you think you are. There is also the reaction when things do go your way, which also feeds the reaction for it’s opposite. It’s like a pendulum swinging back and forth, one minute you’re thrilled, then next you’re angry.
How to stop the swinging chaos? Be aware.
By Tigmonk, on May 25th, 2010
The question… is not, “what should I do?” The question… is, “how should I observe?” People carry many hang ups here, constantly unsure about their actions, not realizing their own perceived separateness as they wonder how to interact with a world outside themselves. (this insight was inspired by Jiddu Krishnamurti)
Being caught up with what you should or should not do, creates division and conflict within yourself. Meaningful action is not about ‘what or how’ you do something, it’s about your perception going into it. Question how you observe life, pay attention to your interpretations as you take in information. Is your observation actually true, or just recycled thought junk.
For example. When you meet someone new, notice how you begin to create a picture of who that person is based on appearance, conditioning, expectations, and the like; before they speak to you for the first time, your mind has already created who they are. When in reality, what you think you know isn’t based on truth, but rather conditioned patterns of observation. This keeps you from experience now fully.
So rather than asking… What should I do when I meet this new person? Try asking… How should I observe this new person? Should I observe them as they are, made brand new in each moment, or should I put them in a box and confine them to a label I created years ago. How you view others, of course, is only a reflection of how you view yourself. Do you see yourself as you are now, in this brand new moment, or are you bound by labels and roles that drag you down. Be present, and pay attention to how you observe, this will bring you closer to now.
By Tigmonk, on April 13th, 2010
For the one who sincerely desires to live from a place of complete love; meaning a place where our identity is truly unencumbered by the things we dislike most, such as hate, jealousy, greed, lack, insecurities, guilt, shame, etc, etc, etc, there will also be a desire to understand the illusion behind these qualities/experiences.
It’s very common for us as humans to want the good, but at the same time we ignore the bad. (I use good and bad as an example to communicate my point, but not to validate their existence.) We take the bad and lock it up, believing it has no place, but without understanding where it stems from, we learn nothing. For those who only want the good, without understanding the whole, don’t really desire truth, but only an escape.
The Love we desire to experience, is not something to be sought after (please understand this point), it is ever present; a constant. How can you search for something you already are? The challenge is to understand everything we’ve added, or have been blinded by, that keeps us from seeing the truth of what is, which is love – an ever present peace that is without want.
As we begin to understand this false addition, we begin to see clearly. As we begin to see clearly, our world begins to change. It doesn’t change by force, or by thriving, or even by control, it changes naturally; it changes back to its original state of being.
A good example of this, would be if you were to take a glass of soapy water and place it under a running facet, as you watch closely, you will notice the soapy water slowly begin to fade as water overflowed out of the glass, until eventually there is no more soap in the water. The glass didn’t have to control the water, nor did it have to hurry the water along, it simply did what it did naturally.
With this example, your ability to recognize the illusion is the running water. By simply being aware of the truth, beyond what your mind has added, you will without doubt experience a shift in your life experience and in your consciousness.
So, what have we added? Well, pay attention to today. What thoughts have you added to its contents, and how much truth is really in those thoughts. Let the water flow, naturally, by being conscious. Have fun with it, no need to control it, or be stressed about this exercise; if you are, then that is a good starting point.
By Tigmonk, on January 22nd, 2010
-Funny Photo Friday-
I’m sure you would agree that it’s common for people to have questions about life. Whether it’s about their own situations, or just life in general. What I also find interesting, is people are often afraid to ask those they believe can help them most; therefore they reach out to people who either really don’t care, or don’t have an ounce of experience when it comes to creating whatever it is you desire to create, or understand.
There is a funny discovery here, because it’s often what we fear, that holds the biggest opportunities for us. When we succumb to our fear, we end up taking the easy road and don’t always make the meaningful progress we were truly searching for.
When it comes to discovering new perspectives on life, speak to those who you fear talking to. I’m speaking about the fear that you might somehow get rejected, or called out, or even challenged, might I even say -error-ed in your perception. Sometimes we fear speaking to certain people, who internally we really think could help, because we fear change; this of course is silly, because it’s change that we are after.
You’d be surprised at the willingness of some who would gratefully mentor or help guide you. Ultimately learning that there was nothing to fear to begin with.
This was a big step for myself personally. Being able to talk to others who I felt understood more than myself. It can be very humbling, and that humble feeling, is often times a bridge to where you want to go. Don’t let the ego get the best of you, lay down this silly pride and reach out to the world around you; it’s a resource waiting to be discovered.
By Tigmonk, on January 21st, 2010
-Poetic Thursday
The human race, caught by surprise.
The mystery of what comes, with no reason or why.
We are still infants, who struggle to survive.
This fight against another, who’s wrong and who’s right.
Can you comprehend, 7 billion people?
All standing around, wondering, lost, in our own insignificant bubble.
Each seeing themselves, as separate from the rest.
Pitted against another, struggling for the best.
It is this idea, that we are we.
That our identity, is our individuality.
The “I” is alone, all by itself.
Afraid it remains, small, cold, and what else?
It is this very thought, that we are separate from the rest
That creates our collective turmoil, we suffer, and wait for what’s next.
Yes, my heart hurts, for our decision to be in fear
Because with it comes the pain we bear.
We are afraid.
Why?!
What can you lose, if you are everything?
Child of life, when will you see?
Cast your fears, upon the endless sea.
Rest in the comfort, of knowing that you are me.
By Tigmonk, on January 19th, 2010
Q&A Tuesday
Submitted Question
Tiger, Why do I have such a difficult time understanding what you write?
J – Oregon
Insight
Not sure I can even begin to fully describe why this is, other than there is no expectation that you should be able to understand. Here are some other possibilities…
You have preconceived notions about right and wrong, therefore you classify each sentence accordingly. Which completely misses the point of my words, they are beyond any idea of right and wrong, and at their core are meant to guide, not to provide answers or fit into a box.
Your identity is attached to a belief structure, and you emotional associate words with past experiences. So when you hear certain words, internally you cut off any attempt to genuinely understand.
It simply doesn’t resonate with you, and with where you are in your life.
You are not ready.
Internally you avoid comprehension because of guilt you place on yourself. Somehow believing that if you do understand, it will mean you’ve been wrong for some time.
You avoid change, and therefore avoid understanding anything that will create change.
I’m crazy, and I don’t know what I’m talking about; I must be terribly confused.
You rush through the lesson.
… These are just a few possibilities, and it doesn’t mean you fall in one of them. These possibilities might also be present in other areas of your life, not just comprehending Paw Daily. Hope this may shed some light on whatever it is that needs light shed upon. There is also the possibility that my ability to communicate is not consistent with your ability to understand, which is similar to it not resonating with you.
By Tigmonk, on January 18th, 2010
Warning. The following is not advice. Only a new perspective.
Have you ever taken a break from a relationship, to question if it’s the right thing for you; whether it concerns a long term marriage, or a recently found courtship? In your questioning, what type of questions are you asking, are they based in truth, or based on an idea stemming from the ego? You’ve probably noticed, that whenever we seek a solution to a life challenge, we begin by asking questions. These questions, set the premise for the answers we will receive, and then the action we will take. Also, it’s pretty common to think that the questions that go through your mind are the same questions that everyone else is asking; this is not true at all.
Whenever I approach a life challenge, I first step back, and question my questions. What do my questions say about my perspective? Are they in alignment with love, acceptance, forgiveness, oneness, compassion, etc? Or do they stem from a place of fear, control, hatred, judgment, blame, etc? The more in alignment my questions are with love, then the more in alignment my actions will be in love, which equals a life expression of the same. Also the opposite is true as well, with questions based in fear.
Questions like… “what is this other person doing, that keeps me unhappy and not wanting to be with them?” are based in fear. It is saying for one, that your happiness is based on the actions of someone else; secondly, it says your decisions are based on what other people decide to do.
Another question… “what must they change in order for me to come back, or continue this relationship?” This is a big one. For me, personally, I see this as a form of control, playfully perpetrated by the ego; here’s why. First of all, when this is used in the context of marriage, it only strengthens my perception that our social idea of marriage is a silly and regressive idea. If we choose to be with someone, only because we believe they will change, then we never fully accepted them to begin with; only desiring to have control over their actions, and if they do change, you’re still not going to be satisfied.
An alternative question to ask, that is more in alignment with truth and love, would be… “Do I accept this person as is, without an expectation for change, and in my acceptance, do I desire to have a relationship with them, as they are now?” This totally leaves yourself open to the possibility that they wont change; which is a true possibility. It has been my experience, and my wife’s experience, that as we accept each other fully, as we are, it empowers the individual to make meaningful life changes on their own, for their own reasons and in their own perfect time, rather than forcing reason upon them.
One of the major hang ups we have, is the belief that relationships or “marriage,” is suppose to be for a really really really long time; so we get trapped into thinking about making a decision for the rest of our life. One of the most freeing decisions that my wife and I have made, is the understanding that tomorrow is to it’s own. We don’t know if we will be together next year or ten years from now. It’s not about a life long commitment, it’s about a commitment now, in this moment, not for moments that have not yet come. If we end up being together for the rest of our lives great, if we decide not to be, then great also. In this process we have discovered a great appreciation and acceptance for each other, as we are now, without an expectation of who the other person should or should not be. This also contributes to the honesty and transparency we share, where we can talk freely about how we feel, without the fear that someone might leave, we give each other the freedom to live their life according to how they see fit. Our individual value is not dictated by their choice to stay or go.
To wrap up this long Paw Daily, question your questions as you make meaningful life decisions; this will teach you much. If you have additional relationship questions that pertain to the above, feel free to send me an email via the website, and I’ll surely respond with additional insights. (response guaranteed up to 6 months after this post)
By Tigmonk, on January 15th, 2010
-Funny Photo Friday-
Imagine for a moment, that the whole world could hear your thoughts, and naturally, you could hear theirs. Seriously take time to form this image in your mind, and think about the consequences of such a collective state.
For many people, with this possibility comes tremendous fear; to the point where many would want to run and hide, and never face another human being again. Do you hide your emotional self from others, do you hide your emotional self from yourself? Do you often get mad because you experience certain emotions; getting down on yourself because you feel it shouldn’t be this way, so there must be something wrong with you? If so, well let me sincerely tell you something. You’re in good company.
There seems to be a stigma that suggests we must hide how we truly feel, whether it is in words or emotion. It is what we have created as a collective society; there is no one to blame, it is just what has been created. Did you ever stop to question why? Where is freedom, when one becomes embarrassed or ashamed over how they feel or think? Why is it so wrong for a man to cry, when in the moment he feels like crying? Teaching us the way things are, must be pushed away and avoided at all costs (ego’s control). Why is it that woman, must control their emotions when it hurts so bad to keep them? Teaching us that now, must be a battle.
Did we ever have the thought, that if a society, a person, was allowed to freely release at any moment that which is within them, we would not see the effects we see today, where people lose it mentally because of years of suppressed emotion? What would a society, or small community, or home, look like if others accepted fully the emotion that others felt? Maybe we mock and make fun of others who feel, because internally we ourselves are emotionally torn. When will the collective healing take place?
If all thought was known to all of man, we would discover how similar we all truly are. We would discover that we are all hiding, we are all hurting, and we are all wanting to feel. Enlightenment, or truth, or the ultimate understanding, is not to be able to sustain any one desired emotion, it is the ability to be free as you experience what it is you feel in the moment; and to do so without guilt, prejudice, or resentment towards yourself or anyone else. We are human, and with being human comes the experience of what humans experience, which include all that we are, as individuals and as a collective.
By learning to be transparent, to not have to lie to self, we begin to release all that we hold on to that creates our suffering. Learn to understand how anything other than complete acceptance for what is, keeps you in a state of illusion, where suffering is your best friend. Transparency will teach you more than you could imagine, when it comes to understanding the nature of self, and the nature of reality.
This Paw Daily Print is somewhat of an extension to yesterday’s Poetic Thursday titled “Surely I Will Cry.”
By Tigmonk, on January 14th, 2010
-Poetic Thursday
I cried once. And then many times before that. Surely, I will cry again.
My Heart, there are times it is soft. Surely, it is not meant to only be strong.
When I cry, I allow. When I cry, I learn somehow. When I cry, I am.
I laugh at this because I’m a man? No. I laugh because of joy, knowing I cry because I can.
The weeping, is not a weakness; but a surrender to what is.
I give the moment of now, to itself; fully.
It desires to cry, so I let be and surrender my fears.
If the moment shall adore joy, I let it be. Why? Because I am free.
It is not the mission of emotion, to sustain a common ground.
For if I am sad, wanting to be happy, I miss the I Am and live as a distant sound.
I am not a collection of what should be felt, I am what is felt this hour, this day.
What hurt is greater, than not being who you know you truly are?
The silent you, the you that is. Not the you, who tries to control every star.
The you who is free, free to fully be the expression of what comes.
The you who is now, not hiding from the sun. The you who knows, that the “I” can not run.
Be still. Be what is. Allow the release of the moment at hand.
By Tigmonk, on January 13th, 2010
-Quotation Wednesday
Before enlightenment; chop wood, carry water. After enlightenment; chop wood, carry water.
-Zen Proverb
 During the journey of renewing one’s mind, it will eventually be discovered that enlightenment has nothing to do with social status, or how you spend your time. There are no holy actions or robes to wear as you begin to see truth more clearly. I know for some, there is a hesitation when thinking about letting go of illusion, simply for the fact that one believes there lives will completely change; however this is not the case.
The change that takes place, takes place within your awareness, in how you perceive the world around you, ultimately creating less suffering. It has nothing to do with what you do with your time, it has to do with what you hold on to within the contents of your mind. My intent here, is to help bring understanding to the false idea that somehow your life will take on some drastic change, and you will no longer be able to do what you are doing now. As if there was some purification that awaits your being, and you will miss out on what you enjoy doing now.
By Tigmonk, on January 12th, 2010
Q&A Tuesday
Submitted Question
Tiger, why is it that my life tends to explode with drama?
-R. Stevens. Boulder, Colorado
Insight
Do you ever experience negative situations that seem to exceed your expectations? For example… you give someone bad news and then two days later they walk up and just punch you in the face. Okay, maybe not that extreme but you know what I mean. Sometimes when we think all will go well, things change on a dime and end up being totally different than what was expected. Why, and how can we minimize the damage? The question that solves this equation is… what are you feeding the situation?
Granted. People are going to respond, however they choose to respond. And I think you’ll agree, that one’s initial response, is not always their true response. Meaning, how one tends to react initially, is usually based on emotion and not logic, therefore creating an experience that seems totally irrational; this may be very true for yourself as well, I know it has been for me. Knowing this is often the case, I’ve learned to allow people to respond freely at first, without giving it much emotional attention. The emotional attention you give, is what is going to feed their response over time, whether its over the next couple days, weeks, or months.
Think of it as a sort of energy field at play, and think about the energy you offer contribute to this field. When others get mad and emotional, even if your miles apart, how you choose to respond to their reaction will affect how they continue to respond. This works even if you don’t speak to them, it goes beyond words; there is still a connection you hold with this other person even though you may not be speaking, a energy relationship of sorts. So… what are you feeding the situation. Do you gather around and gossip about the situation? Do you speak negative thoughts about this other person to yourself, in your mind, or to others? Do you judge and criticize them? What kind of energy are you offering up?
Especially when you bring other people into the mix, this simply increases the energy output. So as the craving comes to call and tell everyone you know about how much of a dick this guy was, stop and think about the energy you’re offering up. If this other person doesn’t have negative energy to feed off of, from you, I guarantee you will have a different outcome. I’ve seen this play out many times in my own life, and it never fails to work according to the law.
Consciously feed the situation love, acceptance, and forgiveness, regardless of their initial reaction. And when you want to stew about it mentally, change the subject in your mind and think about any good moments you might of had with this person or in this situation.
By Tigmonk, on January 11th, 2010
Currently, I’m overwhelmed with creative opportunity; and this past weekend I spend much of my time somewhat paralyzed over the decision of what I should be doing. Obviously what I noticed, is in times when there is indecision, nothing really ever gets done and one tends to feel totally without power. What offered great relief, was being able to take time and question the thoughts I was having, and identifying if they were even true.
What I realized, with a renewed perspective, is that nothing needed to be done, and much if not all of my wants and desires, were based on an expectation of what the future “should” hold. My paralysis stemmed from my desire to control that which ultimately is out of my control. I believed I should be somewhere other than where I was right now. As I release this want, for my life it be other than what it is, I discover more joy in doing the creative things I’m able to do right now.
Another thought that brought suffering, was the idea that somehow the use of these creative talents equaled a certain quality of life. In reality, this is something that can only be hoped for, not truly what is; and it’s hopefulness is based off of a comparison I’ve created in my mind, a comparison not based on my reality, but on the perceived reality of others. All of this thinking, all of this thought of what should be, what should not be, and what it better end up being, is the source of being removed from now. The reality of truth, is that all I can do, is whatever it is I do. Therefore, I can only do what I can now, I can only work with what I have now, and I can only create where I am now.
In my doing-ness now, I will find much more enjoyment and fulfillment if I release any expectation that it should turn out a certain way, or mean something definite when it’s done. Sure, there lies many possibilities for an outcome, but for me to attempt to define what that should be, only puts limitations on what the universe may have in store.
By Tigmonk, on January 8th, 2010
-Funny Photo Friday-
Do you ever find yourself doing things that could have easily been avoided, if only your focus was just a little more present in now? Whether it’s hurting yourself because you weren’t paying attention, or missing a turn because you were distracted by thoughts of the future, we tend to experience many moments where we bring about hardship, only because the mind wonders.
Would you imagine that we even miss out on major life opportunities as well, because of this distraction called mental clutter? Life opportunities don’t happen in the past, nor do they happen in the future, they always happen right now. So, in order for us to be available when they arrive, we might want to increase the amount of time we spend where they are present, which of course is right now.
It’s not so much that we say to ourselves, “okay focus on now,” because in a sense we are still trapped by thought in that moment, kinda like telling ourselves to think about thinking. Thinking about thinking doesn’t necessarily equal presence in now, the point I’m trying to make is to allow ones self to not be so disoriented by obsessive thought patterns. It’s more of a process of letting go of thought, not in the sense that one doesn’t think, but in the sense that one knows they don’t have to follow thought when it enters your mind.
The wondering mind is a mind that follows it’s thoughts because it feels it must do so; it creates a sense of ownership to thought, so it therefore tries to control it. You don’t control thought by trying to control thinking. You watch thought, and then understand it’s truth. As you do so, you will discover most of the thoughts you have, aren’t even true, and over time you will naturally discover there is no need to think such thoughts. It’s a process, not necessarily something that happens over night, it’s a life long journey; something that goes deeper as your understanding of truth increases.
By Tigmonk, on January 7th, 2010
-Poetic Thursday
Rest ye oh child of mine, something to remember in this illusion of time.
What expectation can you hold, beyond my understanding?
How could you ever know, tomorrow’s unfolding?
I’m speaking to you, why do you not listen?
I’m here, now, your mind has forgotten.
So tied up in yesterday, bound by ideas of failure.
How could you here me? As your identity continues to wonder.
How can I help you, bring your attention to now?
Where it’s calm and still, impossible to frown.
Watch your thoughts, but don’t follow their movements.
They are not meant to be your source of guidance.
Just as easily as they come, be willing to let them go.
They are not you, only a tool that passes through a window.
You are much more than your ability to think.
Rest now, beyond thought, I look forward to our meet.
By Tigmonk, on January 6th, 2010
“The moment you have in your heart this extraordinary thing called love and feel the depth, the delight, the ecstasy of it, you will discover that for you the world is transformed.”
-Jiddu Krishnamurti
Wow. Please read that again. I’ll wait.
There are many who say, things “need” to change; referencing some point in the future. And there are many who are bent on fixing a dying and broken world. In reality, in truth, all they seek to accomplish, is to reconnect with a love that is already present. Transformation doesn’t come through fixing something that is perceived as broken, it comes by recognizing the perfection that is already present in every detail of life. When you see it, you will know, and in your knowing you will sense your own transformation, as well as the transformation in the world around you.
So deep, are the words spoken by Krishnamurti. It is a statement for now, this moment and every moment after. What is it, to have this love he speaks of? What is this depth, delight, and ecstasy he so eloquently describes. It is a recognition that everything has its place; every hurt, every pain, every joy, and even the insane. And in this recognition, there is the realization that all is well, well beyond perfection, well in the sense that it shouldn’t be anything other than what it is, right now.
The depth, is not a distance to travel but a deep knowing. The delight, knows no better or worse but only acceptance for what is. The ecstasy is not an emotional high, but a joy that’s simply indescribable. This knowing, this life experience, is not found by strain or control, but through the letting go of what we once thought needed our control. The common egoic response, is of course, well how does one function without this strain, control, and judgment. My only answer… how bad do you want to find out.
Namaste.
By Tigmonk, on January 5th, 2010
Q&A Tuesday
Submitted Question
How do you know for certain, that it’s time to move on?
T.B. -Sacramento CA
Insight
This is a very common question, and it always seems to stem from the same place. Whether it’s being asked in reference to a relationship, or moving out of state, the questions is always asked by the ego. Why is it that the ego asks this questions? Because only the ego is concerned about the certainty of tomorrow. Your higher self understands that tomorrow is only an idea, an outcome that can never truly be known, for certain. You see, the ego believes it must be in control, therefore it desires to know the “emotional” details about yesterday and tomorrow.
…The “emotional” details, like… (at their core) am I going to feel secure? Am I going to be sad/happy, will I find what I’m searching for? I’m not going to sugar coat it and say, “if you have good thoughts then everything will be cherries and work out just the way you want it to.” That would be irresponsible on my part, and irresponsible on your part for believing me The truth of the matter is, no one knows what tomorrow will bring, and the point is not for you to figure it out. The point is for you to grow and discover more fully your connection to life and what it is you can share with the world around/within you.
Part of real growth, is being able to take these risks and take full responsibility for the outcome, whatever it is it may be. Usually if it’s something that offers up fear when you think about it, that alone is cause to investigate the idea of creating change, rather than avoiding fear. It takes courage to create meaningful change. Courage that’s already within you, it’s just a matter of discovering it; and it is discovered by facing your fears and gaining new insight into your true potential. If you fail, and it turns out to be a disaster, than so be it. But remember, your thoughts about it being a “disaster,” are just thoughts, not reality. In truth, it is simply a learning curve, an initiation of sorts as you grow. On the flip side, it could be an exciting adventure that offers up new opportunities more in alignment with your true self.
How do you know for certain? You don’t. End of story. Before you say “but…,” remember, I said “end of story.” It’s not about knowing tomorrow, it’s about being conscious of your life today.
By Tigmonk, on January 4th, 2010
When we perceive money as something that’s hard to get, and is depended upon for one’s survival, you will experience money as lacking and difficult to hold on to; it will be difficult to find contentment with it. When money is perceived as a tool, for a cause that’s near and dear to your heart, and simply adds value to the value you are consciously sharing with the world, you may discover a different and more empowering relationship with this resource.
When you actively engage in your hearts passion, one that actually adds value to the lives of those around you, the universe responds differently. Why? The lesson here is about resistance. Resisting money, feeling separate from it, brings on our suffering with it. Money itself, means nothing; until it is given meaning by you. The meaning you give, creates the experience you dance with. By coming together, and seeing life and its differences as on your side, as part of who you are, we resist less, and rest in this place of connectedness.
Discover a greater purpose for money in your life, rather than something that merely comes and goes, find a reason for it to become your ally, a reason that goes beyond yourself and your immediate circle of influence.
By Tigmonk, on December 31st, 2009
-Poetic Thursday
Horizons of love, falling from above, casting shadows of the eager morning.
I can taste the rain, before it arrives, the wind moves as it passes by.
Calmness tries to describe, what has found the simple me, a sensation, a knowing, that I am free.
Innocence is the sound, the melody of all that is, rest now -and let your soul hear this moment.
By Tigmonk, on December 30th, 2009
-Quotation Wednesday
The only Zen you can find on the tops of mountains is the Zen you bring up there.
~Robert M. Pirsig
Where ever it is we go to find something, once it’s found, ultimately we will discover it was always present within. Understanding such things, fully, relieves us of the frustration that comes with believing we must get somewhere, other than where we are right now.
Our mind desires to point in all directions, giving it something to do, once the pointing stops, we can recognize where it is we actually are and then realize the perfection that is our stillness.
By Tigmonk, on December 29th, 2009
Q&A Tuesday
Submitted Question
What gives dude? Who are you, and why do you know everything?
Anonymous – USA
Insight
Hmmm. How am I suppose to take that question? On the one hand, there could be tremendous sarcasm, and on the other hand there could be sincerity. Either way, my answer fits both of them.
Who am I? The most I can be in your world, is the person you perceive me to be. Your perception of me, can never truly be me, it is only your interpretation; with your judgments and all.
Did you ever notice that there are as many interpretations of you, as there are as many people who have experienced your presence. There are even those who have never met you, who carry some sort of preconceived notion of who you are. What are all these ideas floating around in peoples head about who you are, and what role do they play in your life?
For myself, I can’t and don’t, expect anyone to fully understand me or my purpose. I find it almost irrelevant if people understand me, agree with me, or like me as a person. I say this, because it is not my responsibility to control the thoughts of others. Nor do I have any desire to manipulate and deceive their thoughts into thinking certain things about me. What a waste of time, time spent on subject matter totally unaligned with truth.
People are going to judge you, but is it really you they are judging? Do they not have a right to think their own thoughts? So, why does it hurt so bad, when you hear that others speak poorly of you? Something to think about.
Personal Experience…
The people who know me, predominately from my life experience before… say… the age of 24, know a completely different person from who I am now. But it’s funny, because they (even including family), treat me as though I was the 18 year old they once new. And those who have known me well, over the past 5 years, have a better idea of who I am now, and benefit much more from our experience together.
And this equation works for each new moment. Each second, I become brand new, where I have expanded into a realm of existence, which could either be progressive or regressive in nature.
Namaste.
By Tigmonk, on December 28th, 2009
There is a magnificent beauty that rest deep within the woman. One that surpasses any idea of superficial perfection. I find it astounding, the lack of beauty that today’s women feel. Did you not know, there are billion dollar industries that thrive on you not feeling beautiful? Did you not know, billions of dollars are spent every year trying to convince you that you’re not pretty? Let’s not also forget, just as much is spent on teaching men what’s beautiful about women.
We have grown up in a culture that teaches beauty which is unrealistic for 99% of woman in today’s world. What is real beauty in women? What is it that makes a woman truly beautiful? All the external factors are less than 1% of a woman’s true beauty, and worth. At some point, we as conscious beings might want to learn a greater depth of beauty, not only for the sake of our world’s woman, but for the sake of our relationships with one another.
We have limited ourselves by accepting the lie; men and woman. We have cut ourselves off from one another, taking notice of only those who fall in line with our social conditioning. Consequently, the average woman of today’s world, simply doesn’t feel stunning and graceful in all she does. Imagine how this limitation holds us all back, imagine the possibilities of self and our relationships if we were to see true beauty, rather than the superficial illusion.
To all woman, ignore the nonsense that is attached to a dollar sign. Recognize the love within you that shines with radiant beauty, allow it to expand. The kindness you hold, the compassion you share, and the nurturing nature you hold so dear, without them, we would be a completely lost society.
To all the men, let us not be so shallow as to only acknowledge those who resemble what we see in print and on screen. As our ability to perceive beauty in woman increases, so will our ability to see beauty within ourselves. We arrived into this world from the woman, they are all our mothers and have much to give all of life.
By Tigmonk, on December 24th, 2009
-Poetic Thursday
This was a poem that my 12 year old daughter Talia wrote to me last week. It was fun to see this form of creative expression flow through her. This was a great Christmas gift.
Dad, thank you for all you do.
I really love you.
I love the way you feel so strong,
even when everything around you is wrong.
I love how you give such good advice
I swear you’re a spirit guide in disguise.
I just want to say one thing to you,
and that one thing is I love you.
By Tigmonk, on December 23rd, 2009
-Quotation Wednesday
“We are not held back by the love we didn’t receive in the past, but by the love we’re not extending in the present.”
~Marianne Williamson
Okay. Let’s be honest with ourselves, only for a moment. How often would you imagine, you think about withheld love from the past? Whether from someone else, or from your own being, do you recognize your thoughts ever leaning in this direction? It could even be thinking about how someone had wronged you, or entertaining blameful thoughts about how you didn’t do what you feel should have been done.
When we are so wrapped up in the pains of yesterday, how are we to consciously share love right now? I’m even going to mention being caught up in the pleasures of yesterday as well, can be just as dangerous. So seriously ask yourself and take notice of the thoughts you have, when your attention drifts toward failures of the past, or anticipated loss of love in the future, ask yourself… what does this thought have to do with right now? Can this thought empower me to see love now, and act with beauty in this moment?
Soon you may realize, your thoughts as just thoughts, running circles as they try and make sense of a world lost to an idea of separation. What would you be, without all the thoughts of past negativity?
By Tigmonk, on December 22nd, 2009
Q&A Tuesday
Submitted Question
Tiger, why are relationships so complicated?
-Andy B. -Scranton PA
Insight
At first glance it seems as thought it would be difficult and complicated to have a healthy, functional, and mutually beneficial relationship. However the truth of the matter, from my experience, is just the opposite. It’s not that it’s hard to have a “successful” relationship, it’s quite simple; what’s difficult is having a “difficult/Complicated” relationship. All the fights, the arguments, complaints, power struggles, dishonesty, etc, that is what’s difficult in a relationship. Love, Forgiveness, Peace, Beauty, these are all very easy aspects of life, they offer up no resistance towards what is.
So the real questions is, “why do I choose to have difficulty in my relationships?” And my honest answer, I couldn’t possibly tell you why. Your “why” for behaving this way probably changes minute by minute. I would recommend asking yourself when times seem difficult, “why am I resisting love?” Why am I resisting peace? Why am I choosing to resist forgiveness? These are great questions that might shed light into the truth that is, Love is more peaceful than fear. Over time I feel you might gain tremendous insight.
In addition, honest loving relationships such as in a marriage, aren’t something to be forced; it is something to be created. And we only fool ourselves if we believe what once seemed meant to be, means it always will be meant to be. Sometimes repairing a relationship is like trying to repair an old car, sometimes they run their course and it’s just time to move on. Many couples spend thousands of dollars trying to repair a marriage that was dead 10 years ago, this is fine if it’s what you feel led to do, but understand it’s not a requirement, and truly what’s important is that you (your soul) gets nurtured.
There are needs within your being that desire to be experienced, such things that might be… touch and affection, or encouragement and strength, or even compassion and understanding. Relationships are awesome for experiencing deeper depths of ourselves, so understand that your soul needs are just as important as the soul needs of those around you.
Also for your consideration, in speaking about relationships, see this from the other side. If someone ever leaves you for any reason, understand that your value does not rest in your ability to fulfill the needs of their soul. Why is it you honestly believe that they should/must be with you, and not by themselves or with somebody else? It can be difficult to just simply wish a loved one well as they walk out of your life, hoping for them only the best; but honestly, if you couldn’t do that, is it really love that you feel so strongly -or a sense of possessiveness.
As you understand such things, about yourself, you discover new depths of love that you can share with self and others. So even as one door may close, there are many other doors awaiting to teach you something new; some new way to love, more deeply.
By Tigmonk, on December 21st, 2009
Those you know who carry a destructive addiction, also carry with them a deep suffering within. A hurt sometimes so strong, that the world around seems as though it’s a gruesome prison; one they do not yet understand how to break free from. So, are you one who judges and criticizes them, or one who assists in bringing healing by expressing love within your capacity? Have you not ever suffered? Have you ever wanted to change so bad, but couldn’t? For the ones who judge and criticize, it is a way to mask their own internal pain.
Seriously. How much more productive would our relationships be, if the energy we sent out into the world was one of acceptance? Not just acceptance for those who you want something from, but acceptance for everyone, regardless of their role in your life. Can you see how these sort of thoughts in acceptance, can calm the storm in your world; by removing the judgments you have against what is, much of the pain/suffering you privately experience will diminish.
By Tigmonk, on December 18th, 2009
-Funny Photo Friday-
Please take a few moments and realize what’s going on with this picture, A & B, are truly the same color (shade of gray). Hard to believe? Sure it is. Our eyes and minds are simply being deceived into perceiving something that isn’t really there. Just as we go about our daily lives, we are perceiving a reality that isn’t really true; just as we perceive here two different shades of gray. And when we act on our perception, that is out of alignment with truth, it creates suffering.
What is suffering? Are you confused about its meaning? Here is an example, the difference between pain and suffering. When you hit your finger with a hammer, at that moment what you feel is pain. All the mental talk that comes after that, such as… I’m so stupid, I’m such an idiot, what’s wrong with me, etc etc etc; that’s suffering, what brings you to internal dis-ease, void of complete peace and acceptance for what is. It’s fun to pay attention to this dis-ease as well, especially when it comes to perceiving others.
We have learned and been conditioned to perceive life based not on what is (now), but on what was and what we think will be. And then we believe (strongly) that what we perceive, is the way it really is -and we respond accordingly. Like the hammer example, the mental statements after the pain is based not on what is, but based on patterns that you’ve developed; i.e. “I’m so stupid,” you can come to this conclusion by using references from the past. The truth is… you simply “missed your mark” and hit your finger; then it is gone, becoming the past which no longer exists anymore. Now, how many times can you remember from your past, that you perceived yourself as stupid, whether told to your self, or through the ridicule of others. See how the pattern might developed.
Don’t be so hard on yourself though, there is a world around you that operates this very way, the one you grew up in. The ones who fight to protect an idea, the ones who teach, the ones who entertain, and on and on and on. There is nothing wrong about it, it is simply how we have chosen to operate as a society. It is where we are as a species; it’s an evolution of who we are, there is no better or worse about it. Now, is it time for you to evolve and begin perceiving reality more in alignment with truth, or continue a perception based in yesterday or tomorrow. It doesn’t mean we don’t plan for a relative future, it can be practical to do so, but what window are you looking through when you plan.
There is nothing really mystical about it, this thing called life, it only seems mystical because we don’t understand it. And just because I say “it is this way,” doesn’t mean perceiving it from another way, or angle, doesn’t carry truth either. I’ll stop there. I hope within this PAW Daily, you will find something worth sharing.
By Tigmonk, on December 17th, 2009
-Poetic Thursday
Stressed you may be, over the idea of not knowing tomorrow.
Forget it I say, and you whine about all the reasons for sorrow.
Anxious you feel, always uncertain about the future.
Relax I say, and you complain about life not being secure.
Depressed you are, over decisions you have made in the past.
They’re gone I say, and you remind me the good times don’t last.
What else can I say, to help you see more clearly.
You have convinced yourself that life is bad already.
Don’t you see, it has nothing to do with words from me.
It is you who will choose, to begin to see life with more beauty and ease.
All your excuses and all your complaining,
Has nothing to do with your reasons for living.
All your stress, anxiety, and depression
Is nothing more than not perceiving this lesson.
By Tigmonk, on December 16th, 2009
-Quotation Wednesday
A thousand men can’t undress a naked man.
~Greek Proverb
Suffering takes place when one becomes worried about how others will perceive him. Seeing their opinion as a hopeful latter they can cling to. However if the thoughts of others fall short, our identity will slowly crumble to the ground. And of course this is to teach you, that the man who understands he has nothing, understands he is everything.
The only thing others can steal from you, is what you believe to be your own. A thousand opinions will never be your identity, a thousand words could never define your heart; your essences is beyond any idea of ownership. Can you see how the definitions of ourself, have limited a flow of truth? We are so full of ideas, so full of who’s right and who’s wrong, so full of what should be and should not be, so full of poor me and why me, all in an effort to define our reality. All in an effort to remain clothed of mind.
By Tigmonk, on December 15th, 2009
Q&A Tuesday
Submitted Question
Tiger, why is it I get so worked up inside when talking to people I disagree with, or with those who disagree with me?
-Aaron B. California
Answer
I know the feeling; it’s as if there is tightening around the chest and breathing becomes slightly more difficult. Our face may turn a shade of red, or maybe a lump slowly builds up in our throat. And of course, the heart beats faster as it seems to be preparing for an epic battle. Does anyone else know this sensation I’m describing?
This internal reaction is a result of adrenaline pumping through our body. What is the actual (and natural) purpose for adrenaline? How about to sustain the survival of our species. The moments you experience adrenaline in its natural state, is when your physical life or well being is on the line, and there exist the opportunity for potential physical harm. It’s a survival mechanism provided by nature.
An interesting thing about the mind, is it cannot tell the difference between an actual event and a make believe event; one that is believed in strongly. Therefore the mind will respond regardless if the event is actually true or not; its purpose is not to define truth, but rather to assist in your life experience. Adrenaline is a response based on the belief that I am in physical danger, now why in the world would you respond this way (with adrenaline) if all you’re engaged in is a disagreement?
What is it that is really being threatened, what is it we believe so strongly we are about to lose, more so than just an argument. Here’s the deal, we have attached our identity to our thoughts in our mind, and when those thoughts are being challenged, we take it as “we” are being challenged; our identity? But this isn’t what’s true. What’s true, is it is simply a thought being challenged, not you. If one were to truly understand this, there would be no need for the adrenaline. Remember, the adrenaline is only present because something you identify with is being threatened.
Here are things I keep in mind when having a conversation with someone who disagrees with me. (I say disagrees with “me,” because rarely do I find myself disagreeing with others.)
- You are correct in your way of thinking, because you have the right to think what you see fit.
- Your assumptions about me, are not truths about my true identity, they are only your opinion (thoughts), and your opinion of me is none of my business.
- Your aggression, is a result of your own inner conflict, not a result of what I choose to believe.
- I am you. You are I. Our conversation ultimately means nothing, our disagreement is only a disagreement with self. (skip this, if it doesn’t make sense to you.)
Hope this offers some sort of help, feel free to contact me with additional questions or insights. This topic could easily turn into 42 chapters, or 5 lectures. However it boils down to one thing… and that one thing is beyond my capacity to communicate it effectively with words. Namaste.
By Tigmonk, on December 14th, 2009
In all that which we are capable of perceiving, carries with it the rule of opposites. When you find yourself perceiving hate, with the same passion there exists the potential for perceiving peace, or love. The opposite is always present, it’s just a matter of what you put your attention on. We become trapped by believing our own thoughts, believing the way we perceive things now, is the way things truly are. For example… we believe because we perceive something as bad or wrong, it must be so. On the contrary, it is what it is, and everything else is just commentary; I recommend seeing your thoughts as just that, thoughts, and not truth.
This is why judgment of self and others is pointless, because it’s not based on truth, it’s based on your thought patterns which have been collected over your lifetime. Similar to the idea of your likes and dislikes. Your environment has shaped many of the beliefs you hold today, and these beliefs influence how you perceive the world around you. The truth of the matter is… it’s almost as if each moment offers up a clean slate, with no interpretation, with no right or wrong, and then we enter in and give meaning. The meaning you give, assists you in the life creation process. If you come across a situation and perceive only hatred and hostility, then you make the decision in the moment that you live in a hateful and hostile world; now remember, it doesn’t actually make it true, the world is simply how it is, you have just decided it to be what you perceive. And just as fairly, you could choose to perceive otherwise and see our world as friendly and loving.
Finding your center, involves being aware of what you’re thinking, and recognizing it as just thought and not truth. Be aware that how you choose to perceive a situation determines your internal well being. Even if you feel as though you can’t change how you feel, just be aware that your perspective is on the opposite side of where you’d prefer it to be. Doing so, puts power back into your hands as you now understand it is not your circumstance, but your thoughts about the circumstance that creates so much inner turmoil. Then simply reach for a higher perspective more inline with truth and love. Truth being what is, and love being what you prefer.
The next time you are presented with what used to be a “terrible” experience, ask yourself these questions.
- Do I know this is true, or do I just think it is?
- If there was an opposite to how I am perceiving, what would it be and why?
- How does this current perception make me feel, and how does it affect my world?
- What would my world look like, and how would I feel if I saw it’s opposite?
Keep in mind, it may not be within your capacity to perceive the entire truth, or it’s complete love, that’s okay. The point is to make small shifts, and as you do, your world will change.
Additional thoughts of Perspective:
Our perspective is what guides our life experience. How we choose to perceive the world around us, will greatly influence how we interact with others, ourselves, and circumstance; it will also influence how others treat us as well. We each perceive within our capacity for perception. Meaning, we are capable of perceiving at the level or vibration of our current understanding. My ability to perceive certain things may be greater than another, as is another’s perception greater than mine in some instances. (depending on your experience and life understanding)
In any given situation there are millions of interpretations. Wouldn’t you agree? If a million people watched a football game, there would be a million different analysis pertaining to what was good, bad, exciting, dull, and all the “whys” that go with it. Granted many would be similar, but at their core, all the interpretations would be different. As we go through life, the events that happen, happen, independently of what we think about them, they still happen; everything else, all the thoughts, opinions, and judgments are just commentary, or perspective. To whatever extreme you perceive something, there lies an equally opposite perception.
By Tigmonk, on December 11th, 2009
-Funny Photo Friday-
You have the right to…. what? What truly are your rights? Rather than just accepting what everyone else tells you what your rights should be, have you given thought to what this concept of “rights” truly means, to you? Well obviously I can’t tell you what it should or should not mean for you, at best I can just explain my interpretation and hope you may find value.
I see a misunderstanding between the idea of rights and entitlement. Entitlement being that which you believe is owed to you, and rights being that of experiencing each moment. In my world or my perception, I am owed nothing; also it is true that my debt to anyone is zero. (I’m speaking beyond the ideas of physical matter, and into the realm of perception.) When I think about rights in the traditional sense, i.e. “right to bare arms, right to free speech, etc, etc, etc,” I see them as things that may or may not be true for certain people; more so, I see them as just ideas that people adopt. (I’m not saying they are void of value)
Beyond the politics of mans interpretation of this word, I’m more concerned with the true power that rests with knowing what my “rights” truly are. If I believe my rights are given to me by someone else, such as government or any outside influence, I give up my inherent power and hand it over to them; which seems to make life easier for some (even thought it really doesn’t), therefore at anytime I feel threatened I can look outside my own ability and place the responsibility for change on someone else. No thank you. This is seen anytime you see or hear yourself or someone else complain about the way things are.
Our true right, is the right to experience life as it is right now. Not yesterday, not tomorrow, but right now; the only place that truly exists. I have the right to see love, or see fear. I have the right to see forgiveness or blame. I have the right to perceive life how I see fit. This is my true right; perception. Regardless of what goes on around you, your true power lies in how you choose to perceive the world around you, and the world within you. This choice of perception, is a right you can never lose, it is something that can never be given, either. It simply is.
By Tigmonk, on December 10th, 2009
-Poetic Thursday
Thank you, for this life that I have been given.
Thank you, for this air that I breath.
Thank you, for the choice to see beauty.
Thank you, for much more, and all of these.
The sound of gratitude, is the sound of silence.
It reaches depths, not fully known by man.
It speaks silently, as it expands our presence.
It humbles, it cries, bringing joy without a plan.
To complain about anything, is to be without its knowledge.
To be thankful for everything, is to understand its moments.
Grateful is this silence, for it knows what truly is.
A reaction, a cause, a flow of life that never ends.
Acceptance not for some, but all moments it shares.
Knowing without doubt, it has its place,
Even when the eye understands not, the state of affairs.
Whisper I shall, all that my heart bears.
Only giving thanks, for both my love and my fears.
By Tigmonk, on December 9th, 2009
-Quotation Wednesday
“You cannot shake hands with a clenched fist.”
Indira Gandhi
What has you in such a position where you restrict the love that desires to come your way? I see the love within your resistance, your desire to protect what it is you believe is yours. However your expression in this case, is a love that is surrounded by fear; slightly misguided. Because you withhold an open hand, there is much love that passes you by. What is truly yours? Are you not connected to all? Hmmm. My friend, you do not own anything. You simply are, everything. And that which is in your current possession, is not something for ownership, but for grateful stewardship.
When something flows into your life, if in our mind we take ownership, believing we are the sole owner, we have deceived ourselves and missed out on the true meaning of all that which enters our experience. Your response to its loss, explains much. In the presence of having to give something up, can you let it go freely or do you respond with a clenched fist? For the one who desires control, seeing it as a true loss, only convinces himself more fully that this life experience is one of lack; of not enough. Therefore his reality will follow his belief.
The good steward understands that all possessions are temporary, therefore you can never truly own anything. At best we can do well with what we have now, doing what we can to foster its growth as it benefits the whole of mankind; knowing in our hearts that when it does decide to leave, it only makes room for more.
By Tigmonk, on December 8th, 2009
Q&A Tuesday
Submitted Question
Hey Tiger. What is it that makes life exciting, and how do I end this boring routine called “my life?”
Sarah D. -Canton OH
Answer
 Great timing with this question. I say so because my wife and I were just talking about this and how it pertains to our lives as individuals and as a couple. It’s very common for people to find themselves within a cycle that lacks any real excitement. By “real excitement,” I’m referring to genuine enthusiasm. Being enthusiastic isn’t as random as one might think, it’s not something that just happens, these moments are indeed created. I see it as vital that our lives consist of a healthy dose of genuine excitement. For my wife and I, as we discussed our current state of affairs, we knew it was time to shake things up and create some genuine Enthusiasm.
We did so by genuinely stepping out of our comfort zone and set out intentions to create major change. As it just so happened, yesterday we made a decision that will dramatically affect our lives together and as individuals. We moved in a direction that we both saw as challenging but necessary; and because it was in line with our passions it has created a sense of excitement that’s difficult to describe. What is it you might ask? Lol. I”m not going to tell you, in fact, we are not telling anyone until the time comes when it is absolutely necessary to do so. Telling the whole world (over generalization) about what you intend to do, can sometimes take away from the energy it carries; just keep that in mind.
What makes life exciting is you. You are the excitement you crave, and it’s up to you to unleash it. No one else will do it for you, as you may have learned already. One of the biggest challenges I think people face today, when it comes to creating significant change and enthusiasm, is they have committed themselves into an environment they don’t really enjoy and feel they are stuck. For example, your job. The only reason you’re there, is because you choose to be, there is no “have to” about it, it is all a choice. When people get stuck, they believe they have run out of options, for that very reason I challenge you to create some new and exciting options in your life. Do something radical, something that no one would expect, and before you start thinking about the possible failures, remember, it’s not about winning or losing, it’s about the journey, take some risks and discover more truths about yourself. Don’t cling to what you have, open the doors and allow new opportunities to come your way.
On another note, for all you “Law of Attraction” seekers, the state of enthusiasm may be your biggest asset. If you are without this gift, then give the gift to yourself by deciding to live enthusiastically. If what you do now, doesn’t line up with the enthusiasm you desire, then shake things up. Discover enthusiasm, and discover new potential in your life creation.
By Tigmonk, on December 7th, 2009
What is it about the “Argument,” that we find so appealing? For some, we even occasionally get a rise out of watching others verbally dominate another. Why? I wonder if you can see the inherent separation that makes itself known. One feels a certain satisfaction from knowing (or believing) they have risen above someone else, or proved their own right-ness. Therefore, many seek out the opportunity for argument because it makes themselves feel present, alive, or significant in some way. However the belief behind this action is one that says, I am separate from the world around me; I am insignificant in my natural state.
To treat others as yourself, is not a mantra or lesson that describes two or more people; it is to inform you of your own connectedness. It is to understand you are the other, as you are your self. So, who are you really arguing with? Who are you really getting mad at? Who are you really trying to defeat? At their core, the battle rages within your own mind as it silently condemns the self. All of these outward expressions of separation, are truly internal acknowledgements of the separation you feel inside. This is not something to understand and then go feeling sorry for yourself or attempt to judge others, that would only repeat the cycle. The point is to understand and then allow healing to take place.
How do you allow healing? Bring your focus into what’s truly going on and the rest will take care of itself. When you argue, recognize what’s truly happening; don’t attempt to control it, just understand it; and have compassion for your own errors in perception.
By Tigmonk, on December 4th, 2009
-Funny Photo Friday-
There are many factors that go into play when we begin thinking about asking for someone else’s opinion, help, or advice; and I’m sure many of us can relate to what I’m about to write. I once heard “People only listen because they know it’s their turn to talk next.” That in itself is pretty funny, because of how true it is in many cases. Have you ever taken time to listen to someone without formulating a response in your mind as they were talking?
If you are seeking input from others only because you want to hear your own name, you may very well be wasting everyone’s time. True growth happens when you ask questions because you truly desire to listen and hear a response. This works for when you’re talking to others and talking to yourself. Many times we are so caught up in our own ego, our own idea about ourselves, that we initiate conversations with others only because we wish to voice how cool we think we are. If that is you, how’s that going so far. Lol. I know it’s been me before. It’s part of a lesson I think many, if not all of us are going through or have gone through on some level.
What’s the rush, why are we in such a hurry that we feel we must have a response ready the moment words stop flowing from someone else’s mouth? I’ve thought about this quite a bit, for quite a while. It seems to me, and it has been my experience that a truly meaningful conversations carries with it an element of silence, where thoughts can be collected naturally, without being rushed; and with it is the opportunity of being guided in our speech from maybe a deeper source than we’re used to. It’s kinda like with writing PAW Daily, when the time comes I find myself just being silent and allowing a presence to flow, rather than being in such a hurry.
I encourage you to try new tactics when it comes to truly listening or seeking advice. Make sure you’re truly trying to understand, rather than making yourself known; you will get 100 times better feedback. When listening to others, truly listen. Stop judging for a moment and recognize someone other than yourself needs your full attention. In doing so you will discover many things, and they are things you will discover, I’m not going to tell you. If you are in need to seek advice, people know what you are doing and if your intent is pure. Don’t think you’re fooling anyone. Be sincere, and sincerity will come back around your way.
P.s. If you don’t fully understand the short note to Dr. Ruth, and why it is absolutely hilarious (the meaning behind the squiggly lines)… share it with someone and see it they can figure it out.
By Tigmonk, on December 3rd, 2009
-Poetic Thursday
Can you feel the life that desires to be freed from within?
Can you sense its presence, like a reunited friend?
Has it yet brought tears to your eyes?
Does it hurt to think about saying your goodbyes?
Have you remembered this special place, this space within your heart?
How it calls your name, it whispers, but sounds like a yell from a far?
How can you return, to the love it desires to share?
It’s like asking yourself, “how do I find me while staring into a mirror?”
Maybe we’ve just ignored who it is we truly are?
Why have I convinced myself, that my dream lives on a distant star?
You are the expression that desires to be fulfilled.
You are the hope, the answer, the question mark in the field.
It is simply a choice, for your own choosing.
Follow your heart, then life won’t be so confusing.
Namaste.
By Tigmonk, on December 2nd, 2009
-Quotation Wednesday
Alice came to a fork in the road. “Which road do I take?” she asked.
“Where do you want to go?” responded the Cheshire cat.
“I don’t know,” Alice answered.
“Then,” said the cat, “it doesn’t matter.”
~Lewis Carroll, Alice in Wonderland
The lesson of course is… it doesn’t matter which road you take if you don’t know where it is you want to go. Imagine how many times those questions are asked. What direction should I go? What should I do? Should I? Shouldn’t I? Etc, etc, etc. Figuring out life’s problems as it pertains to the direction of your life, is really quite simple. However we complicate the crap out of it by asking questions before we understand them. It might be wise to finally make a decision on the kind of experience you would like to have during your time here on Earth. After this is done, making these once complicated choices will naturally become easier.
Well… What do you want? I personally try and stay away from the idea of “want,” since it implies a separation, or a mentality based in lack. I like to look at it as… “what would I like to see expressed through me?” As if it is already present, part of my being, and simply a matter of expression. So, what would you like to see expressed through your being? One thing you might notice, is when you discover something that really resonates with your soul, you’ll start thinking of small action items to bring you closer to your desire. It is these small steps that will manifest your desired expression. Remember, you are a creator in this world. So that means you must take part in the creation process. Don’t fool yourself by believing it will just happen because you “want” it to. It is already within you, the journey is doing what you can to bring it about into this 3D physical experience.
Your soul desires the experience of creating, not just ending up at the finish line; if so, there would be no growth. If it seems like you would just prefer to skip the journey and get to the finish line, then my friend you haven’t found something that resonates with your soul. Where’s the challenge? Where’s the perseverance? Where’s the discovery of new possibilities? This is LIFE!, now go and live it!
…on a side note, this might help. Make a list of the things you enjoy doing, those actions that create tremendous excitement within you. Regardless if you see those items as profitable, list them anyway. You may begin to catch a glimpse of a new possibility. Pick one, and “decide” on some actions you can take now to begin the manifestation process. What can you learn about, what can you share, what can you do, that might reignite that candle that once used to burn with a child like wonder? Welcome to this new wonderland, now move in the direction of your desired expression.
By Tigmonk, on December 1st, 2009
Q&A Tuesday
Submitted Question
How can I bring more opportunity into my life?
-Stephen R.
Answer
Hmmm. You know, that’s a great question. Partly because it pertains to a question I’ve been asking myself recently. What I may be discovering for myself, is it’s not necessarily about bringing “more” opportunity, but rather being properly prepared for the opportunity in front of you now. Once done, there will be a natural progression leading towards additional opportunity in its perfect timing. Opportunity is in front of you right now, more than you could possibly imagine. If you have a job that you know doesn’t serve your highest good, or you know is somewhat of a dead end, right now there are things you can do to begin moving yourself in a different direction.
Most people just wait around until they get laid off or fired, and then ask “where is life’s opportunity; I’m so screwed.” The reality of the situation is, life has been trying to show you what’s up, you just haven’t been paying attention. It’s kinda like a relationship that fails when you didn’t want it to, as if there weren’t signs this was coming. You just ignored them and didn’t take action on the opportunity that was present in now. If your current job is not in alignment with the truly fulfilling service you crave to give the world, this is your own doing. Don’t blame anything or anyone, this only gives away your power to change to an external source. Take responsibility and do something now, and everyday to move forward in the direction of your conscious choosing. Seize the opportunity in front of you, rather than “wishing” for an opportunity tomorrow.
I’m amazed at how many of us just settle. We convince ourselves we deserve so little, we totally undervalue our talents and abilities and just succumb to a social expectation. Why not you? Why can’t you be the one who does what they love, and be successful at it? Not “love” in the sense that… this is what I settled for so I’ll tell myself I love it. You know what I mean, seriously, are we selling ourselves short? Well we are if we have convinced ourselves that we don’t deserve what it is our hearts truly longs for. Don’t you desire to live passionately? Or do you want to just sit, and wait, as if someday things will get exciting; someday opportunity will come your way. “Someday,” is for the unconscious dreamer. “Today,” is all you can count on. Now do what you can, with what you have, where you are now.
By Tigmonk, on November 30th, 2009
Do you ever avoid conversations where the focus might be on you taking personal responsibility; or conversations that may lead to you making life changes? I see this often, hell, I do it myself from time to time. Sometimes we tend to avoid other people because we are afraid they may expose areas we know we need to grow in. I want to encourage you to sincerely search your heart and ask if this is you. If you have this fear, it may be for a very good reason; because it is that important that you overcome it.
Find a way to face these fears. Go to those you admire and ask important questions, or maybe read books you wouldn’t normally read. It doesn’t mean you have to adopt their answers, or do what they tell you, it is just an opportunity to gain new perspectives. By doing so, you may find it to be much easier to change when you are actually ready to change.
By Tigmonk, on November 25th, 2009
-Quotation Wednesday
Losing an illusion makes you wiser than finding a truth.
~Ludwig Börne
The truth is what is; it is the constant in life. The illusion is everything else. Discovering truth is not the difficulty, the difficulty is losing the illusion. By releasing the illusion, you naturally find truth. This is why ultimately there is nothing to search for, because the truth is already present; we have only clouded it with our false perceptions. When we bring our perceptions into a place where they align with truth (what really is, now), the rest of our life takes care of its self; naturally with ease and beauty.
What are our illusions? Whenever we perceive life from a place other than “now.” When we view others or ourselves based on the past, when we observe life from yesterday or tomorrow. An illusion is nothing more than false perception, kind of like a veil over your eyes that keeps you from seeing life how it truly is, or a cloud in front of the sun not letting the full light through; this cloud or veil is what creates suffering, blame, fear, etc, etc, etc. So as you slowly lose or release this false perception, you begin to see life in a much different light, consequently a whole new world is opened up to you. One that consists of more peace, beauty, and love. And it’s not in a sense of being disconnected from life, on the contrary, you will notice a deeper connection with yourself, others, and the world around you.
By Tigmonk, on November 24th, 2009
Q&A Tuesday
Submitted Question
Hey Tiger, what is truth, and how do I discern truth above and beyond all the other truths people want me to believe?
-B.B. Winchestertonfieldville, Iowa
Answer
 Lol. I like it. I see there being two issues to deal with here. One being Truth, and the other being Belief. Truth being that which we can know for certain without doubt, belief being something that lives in the realm of possibility. When someone says… “I believe in this.” They’re not really proclaiming truth (even though they think they might be), more or less they are proclaiming a possibility they resonate with; which may or may not be helpful to them.
Discovering truth, for most I would imagine is more of a process of acknowledging what you don’t know. Releasing the control we think we have, by realizing we know very little. But it is this “very little,” that is all we need to be with all that we are. Most of what we think we know, for sure, is really a preconceived notion based on our past experiences and future expectations; not dealing with “Truth” at all. In the process we don’t discern the difference between belief and truth, and just mix it all together; with an end result that looks much like our world today. It’s kinda like judging others, none of the judgmental thoughts are based in truth. That’s the whole point, when you are in truth, it is impossible to judge.
An example of belief… the Bible. To say that the bible is 100% truth, without error, and directly from the mouth of God (as if god actually had a mouth), is irresponsible and reckless. Why? Because you can never know for sure, without doubt, you can only know what others have told you and through what you have experienced. At best all you can do is believe very strongly. You weren’t there, you weren’t him, you can’t know for certain. The challenge comes when we identify with these beliefs “to the point” that they are our identity, as if it makes up who we are, then our identity isn’t based on truth, it is then based on an idea; which can be dangerous.
It doesn’t mean that our beliefs don’t have value, it simply encourages us to keep things in perspective. Understand it as something that offers value and guidance, rather than defining who you are, and who everyone else is or is not. For myself, I find it almost irrelevant if what happened in the past was true or false, because the past is gone and it has nothing to do with what I’m doing right now. You could grow up believing a fairy tale (like santa clause) and gain value from it, but if you’re identity is attached to it, when the cats out of the bag their will be suffering. There is another 10,000 words to write on this subject but I’ll stop here. Hope this will suffice.
P.s.
Questions to ask?
- What Really Exists? The Past? Does it, or is it gone; only living in your mind through memory? How about the future?
- Do I know for certain that if I try, I will then fail? Or just I just believe I will fail?
- Does my past equal who I am, or do I just believe it does?
Do you see how it’s almost like removing an old skin, an old idea that may have held you back? If you discover your belief as just an idea and become worried, who ever said you have to let it go? If you find value in it, value in a way where you experience some deeper understanding about life and it brings a greater sense of peace, and assist you appropriately, then continue on with a deeper understanding; just “know” what you’re dealing with.
P.s.s. If what I wrote about bothers you, in any way, Question that thought and understand this feeling as it relates to your need for control.
I encourage you to ask additional questions on the subject that may lead to additional interpretations to share with others.
By Tigmonk, on November 23rd, 2009
Conscious Intake
Allow what comes into your body and mind, to be at the level you wish to experience. If you could assign a number, a consciousness number to all things that enter your being, what would it be. For example the food you eat, what number would you give a doughnut? What value would you give an apple? The way you differentiate is up to you. Do I feel weighed down, do I feel energized (since food is energy)? You can also do this with the music you listen to as well. Ask yourself “what is this tune feeding, what is it about, and does it resonate with what I am for? As the value of your intake goes up, the quality of your life experience will go up as well.
Conscious Output
Be aware of what is expressed through you (do so without guilt), just take notice and find curiosity within it. If you speak harshly to someone be aware of it, not that you should struggle to change while you’re in the act, just take notice afterwards and maybe spend 10 seconds to run it through your mind with you acting differently, in a way more in alignment with what you desire (and see it playing out where everyone wins).
Real Perspective
Do what you can to carry with you a perspective based on reality and not just conditioned thought patterns. Often times throughout the day I’ll find myself asking, “is this thought really true?” Often times (I’m sure you can think of an example), it’s not really true, it’s only an idea based on what I “think” should or should not be happening. Much of our stress and anxiety comes from this very place, living in a reality constructed by our mind that’s not even true; based on past thought patterns and future projection, but at their core are false. Keep your day in perspective, by keeping your perspective aligned with what you know (for sure), not what you believe.
By Tigmonk, on November 19th, 2009
-Poetic Thursday
It was Jesus who said, cast the first stone if you are without sin.
It was I who said, sorry for judging you, not even knowing where you have been.
Are you the one, who speaks so loudly.
Placing blame, pointing fingers, calling out others so proudly.
There is a caution in the wind, to keep you from throwing so many rocks,
That significance you feel, feeds the ego, but keeps your soul in a cold and lonely box.
The next time there’s an urge, to speak up and condemn,
Listen to your heart, and understand more fully that you are them.
These hurtful words, that spill from your mouth,
Are at their core, a reflection, of how you see yourself.
So throw as you will, as many stones as you can bear,
Just know the pain you create, is the suffering you will wear.
By Tigmonk, on November 18th, 2009
-Quotation Wednesday
Beware lest you lose the substance by grasping at the shadow. ~Aesop
I can’t say for sure I entirely understand the intent of the author (Aesop) within this quote; but within it I can find meaning that I believe to be tremendously valuable. Each experience, can be seen as a shadow. Whether it’s happiness, success, love, or pain, they are all experiences that come and go. One thing about the ego that I find so fascinating, is its constant attempt to hold onto what it thinks it needs. You experience a little success, and then convince yourself that this is truth and you must never be without it again. You see the shadows of love, and then think that this is the way things are suppose to be.
Do you see what I mean, that the ego wants to hold on to something? This of course is seeing reality completely backwards. You can’t hold on to spring time, you can’t grasp the night sky, you can only experience what is taking place right now. Try and grasp water, and you’ll soon find that you will lose it; you must hold it gently to experience its beauty. By trying to grasp what you think you need or want, it only confirms the illusion in your world, and you miss out on what’s truly going on; the true beauty within now. This life of grasping at shadows is one where you are continually trying to get somewhere, consequently, you lose the substance of what you desire most. When you are happy, be happy. When you are sad, be sad. Appreciate the experience, rather than trying to control it.
By Tigmonk, on November 17th, 2009
Q&A Tuesday
Submitted Question
“I desire to be free from personal constraints and am having issues with confidence. What advice can you offer?” -CW. Washington
Answer
Absolutely love the question. In your statement, you said “having -issues- with confidence.” I would question the intent of the word “issues.” Would you agree, that this word (for you personally) carries with it a negative connotation; as if, it didn’t have a right to be.
True freedom, beyond any egoic frame of reference, is the freedom to experience what is, the way things are as they are now, beyond any interpretation we could offer up. There will never be any “freedom from.” There can ultimately only be “freedom to.”
Freedom to “have issues with confidence,” without the suffering that comes with telling ourselves it’s wrong, or shouldn’t be. It’s presence has just as much right to exist, as does love. The challenge comes when the ego desires control, and feels it must rid itself of this perceived infliction that holds us down. Freedom (or truth) doesn’t desire to rid itself of anything, it only desires to flow and take on new forms; forms of experience.
These constraints that you experience, may seem to hold you back, but do you not hold back your own children when you feel they are not yet ready. Do you not ever hold yourself back, when you feel as though you’ve stepped beyond your comfort zone. These constraints, serve a purpose; a lesson that desires to show you something. Where is the trust that all is well?
Yes, sometimes we feel as though the water does not flow as fast as it should; trust me, I’ve been there. But the reality is, the water can only flow as fast as it is flowing, right now. At best, we can guide ourselves, or allow ourselves, to be guided with the stream. One with it’s perfect order.
It’s not about getting somewhere. It’s about being “here,” more peacefully. This will create a natural flow, leading to the place you truly are meant to be. Let these actions you desire to take, take on a life of their own. Allow them to flow through you, creatively; rather than you trying to control the flow.
**How to Have Confidence?***
Learn to understand who and what you are, then there will be no need to be without it.
I encourage you to submit your own question, so we can continue Q&A Tuesday uninterrupted -or Share this PAW Daily with a friend who might want to submit their own question.
By Tigmonk, on November 16th, 2009
As we go through life, we are constantly bombarded with lessons in growth. Sometimes they’re subtle, sometimes they’re loud and obnoxious. Either way, they are still there, what it comes down to is… are you listening? When your attention is geared towards growth, you tend to ask different questions. When your attention is geared towards growth, you tend to not be so focused with the outcome, as you are with the journey. Cutting corners becomes difficult, even the thought of doing such a thing could upset your stomach, because you know all too well that when you do try and cut corners, somehow someway you end up having to compensate (plus some) for your hurried actions.
How do you stay focused and do it right the first time? I’m not so sure it’s a “how to” kinda question. Maybe we should question the “why” behind what we are doing. Reorganize the “why” in your adventure, it may give you added incentive to pay closer attention. If you find that you repeatedly fail in your attempt to stay focused, the obvious question that follows… are you sure you want to be doing what you’re doing? When you come across something you’re passionate about, you’ll find this business of focus much easier, but for those mundane tasks, take inventory of why they are still important, questions where the focused actions will lead, and question where the non-focused actions will end up.
By Tigmonk, on November 13th, 2009
-Funny Photo Friday-
Are you someone who complains about their life, always available to point out what you are dissatisfied with? Maybe you’re frustrated because you find your existence to be boring, or dull. Even those who are seemingly busy people can end up in this place where their smiles feel forced. To those, or you, I say find a way to create new and genuine smiles. Before you start making more excuses like how busy you are, or untalented you are, take into consideration that your boredom is your own creation. So if you desire something different, it’s going to be you who creates something new. When faced with this kind of challenge, people tend to revert back to that which offers up a cheap grin; running to that which offers no real satisfaction, but only a means to pass the time.
If you truly desire to create new smiles, smiles that are genuine and heartfelt, you may find it necessary to take on new challenges beyond your current comfort zone. Do you have goals that have sat on the shelf for far too long? Do you have ideas that await your attention? Have you been meaning to make changes, but have only changed your approach in putting it off? Well maybe this irritation you feel, is a call to bring yourself back to what you know needs done; rather than running around in circles trying to convince yourself your too busy. Start Small, make a list of what you can do now to make progress, and slowly but surely let this new expression flow through you.
By Tigmonk, on November 12th, 2009
-Poetic Thursday
What is this heart ache of believing you are without? What is this nonsense of being surrounded by doubt? Is it the sensation of clinging to just one more answer? Do we not know, this is the source of our spiritual cancer?
If our prayers were answered, would we then believe that all will be well? Only for a moment, a second, until more pain began to swell. How many times have you passed through this gate of illusion? Believing for one more “thing,” to cure the inner confusion.
When we can release this idea that there is truth in the “have not,” Surely we will discover a joy in life that’s present and cannot be bought. There is nothing you can gain; no prize, no recognition. There is no-thing you are without, not even a single ambition.
Find freedom from want, by “being” what you desire. Allow life as it is now, to be that which can inspire. Do you not know that you have all that is needed. Allow it to grow; my friend, it has already been seeded.
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About the Site Author/Creator  Tiger Singleton
a.k.a. Tigmonk & Paw
With a unique style of writing that can be considered wise and playful, Tiger communicates truth in a way not often seen in today’s world. Certainly some find his words and thoughts to go beyond left field, but for others they find a deep level of compassion, love, encouragement, and forgiveness.
Tiger is 28 years old, currently living in the beautiful Southern Oregon Valley with his wife of 7 years and their 3 daughters.
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